Saturday, July 31, 2010

Growin Up Too Fast: by Louise @ Lou Loves Learning

Today's guest post is by Louise Edington. Like me, Louise is new to the blogging community, and I am super excited for you to read her guest post. I "met" Louise at @BlogDangerously 's #wineparty on Twitter. (If you haven't picked up on it yet, this mama is addicted to Twitter!) Louise likes Twitter too. Follow @LouiseEdington. You can visit Louise at her blog, Lou Loves Learning.

Growing Up Too Fast!

We recently went on a family road trip to California and visited The Haight Ashbury district in San Francisco. This took me back to memories of me when I was around 11 which is smack bang in between the ages my two girls are now (12 and 10) - I grew up in England by the way.

At that age I had an Easy Rider poster on our playroom wall and used to borrow my teenage neighbours record player and records for a weekly disco that I ran for my school friends. I used to charge a small entry fee and with that I bought biscuits (cookies) and lemonade to for all my friends. Early signs of entrepreneurship?

I also remember that The Isle of Wight Festival was on and my teen neighbours went. I couldn’t understand why my mum and dad wouldn’t let me go with them! And I remember that my mum would try and recreate all the 60’s fashions for me as she made most of our clothes and she even bought me a pair of boots like the ones in the picture.

These memories made me look at my girls and how hard it is to let them grow up and be themselves. It’s so hard to let go and I had far more freedom at that age than my kids do now. My eldest got really upset the other day over some little thing and sobbed that she wished that she were 18 and that we didn’t tell her what to do all the time (I seem to remember that we had told her off for not doing some small chore). I remember feeling way more grown up than I was allowed to be.

I do also remember those hormonal ups and downs but it’s so difficult to know exactly how to deal with them as a parent of two girls. I do my best and communicate and hug way more than my mum and dad ever did but I still feel I’m not quite getting it right. Add to that equation two very different personalities in my girls and I’m learning that each one is going to need very different things from me as a mum.

We have started to allow them some freedom. My 12 year old went for a sleepover with a 13 year old friend the other day and was exploring our small town and riding around on the free bus in the town and she loved it. I was, of course, worried sick. We also drop them at the movies on their own and leave them at home alone for short amounts of time while we go to yard sales or on a date night.

I’m learning that this time is way more difficult than when they were younger even though we have the freedom to go out without them at times. I’m also learning to understand where my mum and dad were coming from all those years ago.

How do you cope with either the actual or the thought of the process of letting go with your kids? What are you learning from seeing your kids grow up?


MamaOnDaGo said...

Oh, I'm not letting them grow up. LOL! I hate the thought. My kids are still young (3 & 1). Each milestone they reach, I'm filled with joy & some sadness. Sadness at the thought of them growing up. The 3 year old will be going to preschool this fall. There will be a lot of tears shed. I only hope I'm doing a good enough job at raising them. It's an every day struggle.

Anonymous said...

It's tough certainly and I'm always telling mine to stop growing - lol. I have found a quote that I wanted to use in the post but couldn't remember where I'd heard it 'Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They came through you but not from you and though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
Kahlil Gibran' - and it's true and I try to remember that.

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